Nov 1: If you would have asked Abigail a few years ago where she wanted to go to college she would have told you she didn’t know. I think she’s the type of girl that once she has it figured something out she’ll let you know but she’s not a big speculator. If I’m remembering correctly, when she was a sophomore she declared she wanted to go to BYU – NOT BYU-Idaho, only BYU-Provo. BYU is tough to get into. You hear horror stories of the kid with perfect grades, impressive ACT scores and lots of extra curricular activities that gets turned away so even with Abigail’s awesome credentials it’s not a sure thing. Anyhow, early applications were due on November 1st at 4pm – we’ve know this for a long time. Abigail tends to procrastinate – she proclaims she works well in the eleventh hour and will often create a time crunch so she has to push herself to get it done. Sounds crazy to someone like me who likes to be prepared, plan ahead, and not take chances. There were six essays to complete. Abigail had friends getting help on their essays from parents, hiring tutors to help them pick the perfect angle, etc… We offered to help her brainstorm or proof-read a draft and each offer we gave was sloughed off. She’s fiercely independent – which is great, but certainly some input and feedback would be helpful. Nope. It was less than an hour from the deadline and I didn’t know what she’d written about in a single essay. As we were sitting on the couch and she was copy/pasting everything in the BYU system I noticed a post on instagram by Justin’s sister Tami that said “Hallefreakinglujah! BYU application is submitted (with one hour to spare) and I don’t have to edit any more essays!!”
I replied the following on Tami’s post: “Abigail wouldn’t even let me read her essays {eye rolling emoji + prayer emoji}”
Tami then sent me a text…
I guess this little back and forth spurred Abigail to tell me I could read them. I hesitated for a moment cause I wanted her to WANT me to read them – ha! But I quickly realized we were down to only 30 minutes and I needed to get cracking. I think I only got through three before we were out of time. Obviously, there’s not a whole lot of revising that can happen in that short amount of time, but I did suggest a few changes in word and maybe switching the order of something. Getting my feedback wasn’t traumatizing or critical so it ended up being a good thing. I just wish she would have been more open to it earlier. Logically she should be a shoe-in for BYU, but we’ll see come mid-February.
As backups she’s applied to USU (Utah State University), UVU (Utah Valley University) and BYU-Idaho (which she’s already been accepted to).
Nov 2: As mentioned Abigail has been trying to support her friends on the volleyball team. Justin went with her today and took this picture of the “student section”. Guess they don’t get a huge turnout, especially at an away game.
Tonight Justin and I went on a big group date to see Ryan Hamilton, a really funny comedian that’s a member of the church. He was hilarious! We went out to dinner at a Indian restaurant nearby beforehand and it was delicious. Justin and I ordered two orders of naan bread because it was that good. We’ll definitely go back again sometime and are excited to learn we both like Indian food.
After the comedy show we walked down to an Asian shaved ice place – very unique and yum!
Nov 5: I had to take a picture of the package I received today. Two little eye shadows in this great big box. I gotta think there could have been a cheaper and more efficient way to package those little guys.
Nov 7: Tonight at book club I caught a glance at the phone of the woman sitting next to me and nearly had a panic attack. I just can’t understand how someone could be on top of things in their life with over 100k unread emails, 12 unread texts, 51 out of date apps, etc…
Nov 8: Tonight I went down to Auburn to celebrate Tara’s birthday. We had dessert at the Rock and caught up on all the recent happenings in each other’s lives. I love these ladies and I’m so grateful that our friendships have remained strong even though some of us no longer live close by.
Nov 9: If you recall we had a 4.6 earthquake in July and I was woken up again this morning with by a 3.3 earthquake. Sign of the times? I’m not a fan of feeling my house rumble. We’ve had a few more earthquakes since this as well.
Nov 12: I try to fit in a little after workout walk when I can. The fall is so beautiful here. Pictures just don’t do it justice.

Tonight I attended a presentation with Collin Kartchner. Apparently he’s a big deal – member of the church from Utah – well known for advocating the dangers of social media and cell phone usage of teenagers. My friend Laura in Texas had seen that he was coming to speak at a church in the area (not of our faith) and told me I needed to be there. My friend Natalie ended up coming with me, which was fun. Regulating cell phones is one of the biggest struggles of parenting. Thankfully I’m not dealing with drugs, suicide, etc… so I can see how that statement may seem trite, but my kids aren’t growing up in the same world I did. I didn’t grow up in the same world as my parents. The struggles are different, yet no less dangerous. I can’t imagine having our teenage years plastered for the world to see. Very little is secret or personal now days. If there’s fun going on without you you’ll know it. People are cruel online – commenting in ways they would never think to say to your face. It’s hard stuff. Anyhow… the event was awesome. Did we made huge changes at our house? Not really, although I’m more committed to keeping Jason phone-free for as long as possible cause once someone has a phone it would be an all out war to take it away. Collin spoke a lot about connecting with our teens. True connection. It was fantastic. I really should go back and listen to some of his videos online as a refreshers. I really wish I could have brought the girls with me he has a fantastic ability to connect with teens.

Nov 15: Today was National Bundt Day! Starting at 11:15am, the first 22 guests in line at Nothing Bundt Cakes would score FREE Bundlets for a year! All other guests would receive a FREE Confetti Bundtlet. I was determined to be one of the first lucky 22 guests. Figuring out what time I needed to arrive to make that happen was a wild guess.
I pulled into the parking lot around 9:30am and parked so that I could stay in my warm, dry car and watch the storefront to see when people started to arrive. The first guy got in line at 9:34am and I could spot another cake-lover sitting in a car doing the same thing as me. At 9:40am the 2nd person got in line, 9:42 the 3rd, 9:48am there were 5, people started coming left and right and suddenly there were 8 people in line at 9:52am and then I made my move and was #14 at 9:53am. We hit our 22 max at 10:07am.
The hour and 22 minutes wait actually went by quite quickly. I loved that they gave us some samples while we waited.
Abigail showed up with some friends shortly before the doors opened and got her free bundt cake.
There was a text thread today between me, Abigail and Carly that I thought demonstrated how serious we take food and free stuff around here. First some context… Carly and a friend bargained with Abigail for a ride to Issaquah so they could do some shopping and eat at Café Rio. Abigail would drive them, but Carly had to buy Abigail food. Which leads us to…
Nov 15: This is the first year that Katie’s teacher has taught and so far we’ve been impressed. In truth I’ve had very little contact with her but I did appreciate the email she sent me this week. Always great to hear that your kids are being kind and respectful away from you.
Nov 16: Tonight was Ladies Night. Not just any average night out. My friend Addy is deep in chemotherapy and so we decided to join her tonight wearing wigs of our own. I originally purchased a purple ombre wig for fun, but it looked horrendous on me. Granted I had zero makeup on and I didn’t even have the wig on properly, but I still felt it was very old lady, witch-like.
So instead I texted a friend who I had worn a wig on Halloween and went blond instead. Still very, very different, but better than purple. We had a private dining room at the restaurant. I’ll admit it was a little awkward to walk through the entire restaurant to the back dining room in crazy wigs, but when your friends along side you are doing the same it was fine.
Some wigs were better than others – yikes!
Nov 19: Over the years there’s been some back-and-forth with the Fletcher family comparing FICO scores. I’ve always had exceptional credit but today I reached perfection. Had to share it with Justin and his Dad.
Tonight was YW in Excellence. Abigail has been the laurel class president for the past year or so and was in charge of the activity. Carly and I didn’t make it because Carly had a basketball game that night. Abigail brought home the pictures and blips about each of them.
Nov 25: I’ve been working on a project to create a Christmas ornament for each year that Justin and I have been married – actually I included one for 1998 because we got engaged that Christmas so there were 22 ornaments to put together. It was fun to look back on pictures from each year. If we sent a Christmas cards that year I used that same photo to represent that years ornament. I wrapped them all up and had Justin open it on his birthday. It’s been fun to see them hanging on the tree all season. I love looking back and remembering my kiddos when they were little.
Nov 26: We had our first snowfall of season today. Just a little skiff, but please, please, please don’t let this be a sign of things to come!
Drew completed his sticker book this month. He’s been taking it to church most weeks. It’s a nice quiet activity and he has really enjoyed it. I had him choose one of his favorite pages to take a picture of before sending it to the recycle bin.
Nov 28: Thanksgiving came and went. It was a bit of a sore spot for me as I really wanted to take the family to Maggiano's and have a enjoyable stress free meal, but Justin was dead set against it so we had yet another Thanksgiving dinner at home with his parents. The food was good and we played several games afterward with Grandma & Grandpa Fletcher. Quiet and simple.
Nov 29: Justin’s birthday was today and took the entire family out to dinner. Not very often that that happens. We went to Maggiano's which we all LOVE. They treated Justin to some yummy lemon cookies for a birthday dessert that he thankfully shared.
I nice lady eating nearby asked if she could take a picture of us. Yes please!
After lunch Justin and I went to a movie and the kids continued on home.