Thursday, April 5, 2018

March Miscellaneous

March 2:  Jason and Katie were sure excited to attend the Donuts with Dad event at the school this morning


March 3:  Justin took Jason hiking this morning at Rattlesnake Ledge. 


He knows by now that I’m not thrilled with them hiking when it’s still cold enough to run into icy, dangerous conditions.  Justin didn’t tell me where exactly they were going that morning and they were gone for several hours.  My concerns were validated when the news came in that a 16-year-old boy fell 600 feet to his death that morning on Rattlesnake.  I’ve always been nervous around steep cliffs even driving windy canyon roads.  Since Lexy’s death I’m even more leery.

Today I popped into the bonus room and found Abigail playing Headbands with Drew.  Oh, how I love sweet moments like this.


March 6:  Justin is still pounding the pavement – pretty amazing views along his running route


March 10:  Justin told the kids he would pay them $50 if they could run in 4 miles in under 40 minutes.  I think the idea was that the kids would work their way up to that by getting out and running more often.  The girls are completely uninterested and I don’t think Jason was necessarily planning on earning that money, but he went out on a run with Justin this morning and nailed it – 4 miles in 37:26. The kid has been competing with some friends on who gets the most steps each day/week since he got his fitbit in December so he’s been pretty active.  To get more steps he wants to walk to/from school any chance he can and if he has extra time in the mornings he’ll actually circle the block first.  Way to go buddy!


March 14:  A friend of mine had a Groupon for a local playplace so she organized a little pre-play lunch at CafĂ© Rio and then we enjoyed a few hours chatting it up while our littlests burned off energy.  Drew especially loved all the fun ball contraptions.  A perfect afternoon.  I’m all for playdates that are that fun for both Moms and kids.


March 16:  Today was class picture day for Jason.  When I came downstairs this morning he was dressed to the nines.  Full suit and tie with dress shoes.  Apparently there was some sort of contest to see who could dress the nicest.  He was pleased to come home that afternoon and tell me he’d won and received a candy bar as his reward.  I love that he was confident enough to stand out and not care at all if he was the only one dressed up.


March 21:  Just a shot of my buddy Drew and me in my mom uniform.  I wear this sweatshirt pretty much every day at some point – some days I wear it all day.


March 25:  Carly showed Katie a fun little knitting contraption and Katie spent hours this month making her creation longer and longer. 

It’s probably three times as long as this by now

March 29:  It feels like the older my kids get the less often I see sweet, loving interactions between them so I’m learning to savor them when they do.  Bedtime stories are so much sweeter when read by an older sister.  The same sister who just hours before stormed off in tears because her little brother set the table instead of her, cause heaven forbid they could both do it together.

Thursday, March 29, 2018

Back to City Hall

If you recall from this post I’ve been concerned about a massive development proposed to be built nearby since I learned of it last summer.  As detailed in the same post, my appeal of #1 and #2 of four requests by the developer found me as the sole participant in a hearing examination back on November 8.  It was incredibly stressful and time consuming.  The examiner was supposed to make his decision within 15 days; however, it wasn’t January 23 that the parties were informed of his decision – two months longer than expected.  He found in favor of the developer and city on both points and the third request (the approval to allow the developer to increase the limit of the buildings to four stories high - discussed on the November 16 hearing) was also approved by the hearing examiner in the same report.

I wasn’t able to attend the November 16 meeting and since that meeting was the first opportunity to officially comment on that third point the hearing examiner’s decision to allow four story buildings was appealable to the city council.  Since so many of my concerns about the scale of the complex relate to the size of the development, I decided I needed to file an official appeal regarding the building heights and see this thing through to the end.  I submitted my appeal the morning we left on vacation - February 14.   I was notified on February 23 that the appeal before the council would be held on Tuesday, March 20.   That gave me plenty of time to prepare; however, knowing how stressful it would be I decided I would wait until the week before to start rereading through all the documents and compiling my arguments.  I’ve learned that it’s better for me to take on one big thing at a time and I didn't want this to take over my life for the next four weeks.  For the most part I’m pretty good about pushing off something stressful until it’s time to focus on it.  Sure I thought about it everyday, but I didn’t let myself get worked up about it until I decided it was time.  Anyhow, I spent a couple full days preparing and a few other hours here and there.  The day of the appeal was crazy!  Abigail had her first home tennis match, Carly had lacrosse practice, Jason was supposed to have piano lessons and his fifth grade concert was that evening as well as youth for the girls and boy scouts.  I cancelled the piano lessons and we skipped scouts, but the rest we were able to manage.

The difference about this appeal was that it was a quasi-judicial closed-record appeal meaning no new evidence could be brought in.  In addition the format was much different.  There was one other person who submitted an appeal though his arguments were based more on the structure of the buildings and mine covered more of the scale of the project – i.e. the size of the units (4-5 bedrooms!) and the impacts that would have on our traffic and student population.  Each party was given 20 minutes.  The appellants were allowed an opportunity for rebuttal, but both our argument and rebuttal was limited to 20 minutes total.  I was first up, then the other appellant, then the developer, then the city, and then it was back to me and the other appellant to use up the remainder of our 20 minutes in rebuttal.

Before beginning, each council member was questioned by the mayor whether they have had “ex parte” or off the record communications with the parties involved.  In addition they were asked if they had any relationships or involvement that would materially affect their ability to impartially decide on the matter.  Unfortunately, one of the council members had testified at the November meeting (smack dab in the middle waiting to find out if she’d won the election be on the city council) in opposition to the development so she had to step down from her seat and leave the meeting.  It would have been to my advantage to have someone on the council tonight that was familiar with the project and shared my concerns.

Another interesting part of this process was that one of the council members is the brother of one of my closest friends, we’ve gotten together socially many times - his daughter is one of Abigail best friends, they recently moved into our ward, etc…  He and I have had several conversations about the development since the summer – he signed one of the approved documents I previously appealed.  He disclosed our relationships/discussions and then the mayor asked if I felt this council member should step down.  I didn’t.  I expressed that I knew he would have no problem telling me he disagreed with me and I would have no problem doing the same for him.  Honestly, it’s pretty amazing I can still like the guy when he is supporting something I so strongly oppose. 

I was well prepared and thankfully my nerves stayed in check so I was able to communicate my arguments clearly.  While the legal representatives from the developer and the city presented their 20 minute arguments I was taking notes and had come prepared with defenses to counterargument their points.  I say this in the most humble way I can, but my rebuttal was awesome.  I refuted their points with opposing facts including references to evidence and testimony given at hearing examination.  I felt fantastic when I sat down.  Not fantastic like I’ve got this in the bag, I knew I had little to no chance of overturning the hearing examiners decision, but I felt I’d done the best I possibly could to communicate my concerns.

The council began their discussion in the same room; however, when council members started openly questioning whether the hearing examiner may have not taken into consideration some of the issues I addressed their lawyer advised them to go into a closed session to deliberate. 


They deliberated, privately, for over 45 minutes then they all came back to their seats and unanimously upheld the hearing examiners decision. 

Not at all surprising, but still incredibly frustrating.  What bothered me most was what they (my council member “friend”) said after the ruling, “I share some of the concerns that Mr. Babcock and Mrs. Fletcher have stated here, but given the very, very narrow grounds that we have to rule on tonight, a lot of that can’t factor into my decision. The good news I think is, even if this is approved as we go through design review I think there are opportunities to make sure that some of the issues that have been brought up by Holly and Adam can be addressed. I’m not suggesting it’s going to eliminate a fourth floor, but I do think there are opportunities to make sure that this does fit as perfectly as possible with the look and feel of our community. So more to come on that.”

So that sounds somewhat encouraging, right?  But here’s the deal.  In the hearing examiners findings similar statements were made, “this is something that should be taking into consideration during the design planning”, “the city should take these traffic issues into consideration during the construction of the development,” etc… So who’s going to be following up with the city planning commission to make sure these issues and concerns are addressed?  I lack faith that they city commissioner will do that on his own and I’m not sure the city council plays any part in the planning of this development beyond what they did tonight.  So who’s going to babysit them and make sure they do what they say they will.  Please don’t tell me that it might need to be me cause I want out.  I never really wanted in.  I’d hoped I could leave this meeting tonight and wipe my hands of it, but I don’t know that I can just hand it over and trust that these “opportunities” will be taken. 

If you recall there is that fourth request that is next to be addressed.  Several of my concerns fall into this fourth point as well.  I’ve said them all.  I really, really hope that this as far as my involvement needs to go and that everything that has been discussed up to this point will be taken into consideration going forward.  It’s been quite the ride.  I don’t regret taking it, but I really won’t be at all sad if I never step foot in city hall again.

The day after I was emailed a copy of the signed document as well as a link to the video recording of the proceedings posted on the city’s YouTube channel – surprise!


The local newspaper also published an article on the meeting though they misstated some facts and in my opinion left out some of real meat of it, but I guess that’s media.


Someone in the neighborhood posted the above article to our neighborhood Facebook page and asked if it meant that the affordable housing development is going to be built – of course people respond with their little mad faces and I’m like come on people! Where have you been? {insert eye roll} I get it though.  So many people wrote in letters to the city when this initially came out but the process has been so frustrating and our voices continually ignored that they’ve checked out.  It’s been overwhelming, discouraging and SO incredibly time consuming.  I wish we could just trust that our city leaders have the city’s best interest in mind at all times – in this case I believe they have coward in that regard. 

Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Let there be music!

Tis’ the season for spring concerts. 

Jason had a concert at the high school on March 1 – his elementary school choir performed, a local middle school performed, one of the high school choirs performed and then they all did a number together.  It was cool to see the evolution of the choirs in the valley, but boy was it a late night.  I had been running around to sporting events, practices, etc… since school let out and in hindsight I should have had Abigail come and get Katie and Drew so they didn’t have to be out so late (Justin was at a church meeting).  Alas we all survived, but this was the only clip I got of the entire evening.   Jason’s the handsome dude on the back row near the middle.


Carly participated in the regional solo & ensemble festival on Saturday March 10 – she played the clarinet with two other girls and there was a boy on the flute.  Their performance wasn’t their best – Carly said she started them out too slow.  The second video is the instructor working with them to quicken up the pace and add a little more pop to the piece.


Carly had her spring band concert on March 14 – I brought Jason with me since he started playing the clarinet this year.  I thought it would be fun for him to see what a middle school band concert is like since {gasp!} he’ll be in middle school next year.  I don’t think he’ll continue with band, instead he’s leaning towards just choir.  I actually had a seat this time with a mostly clear shot of Carly (front and center):


Tuesday, March 27, 2018

Carly’s 14th Birthday

Carly was lucky this year to have her birthday fall on Sunday – not just any Sunday, but Fast Sunday.  Ha!  She had a party the day before.  We actually purchased the groupon for the electric boat rental for Abigail’s birthday party in January, but they were closed during the time we wanted to schedule so Carly got to swoop in and use it for her party instead.  She invited several friends to join the fun.  It was a busy Saturday and a few friends had sports commitments and couldn’t attend, but the group that came had a lot of fun.  Justin and I were both originally planning to go out on the boat with them, but in the end everyone could all fit in one car if I stayed back.  I got a picture of the girls before they left the house Seattle-bound.


I was bummed to miss the fun.  I love watching my teenage girls interact with their friends.   I packed up a whole bunch of goodies and treats for the girls to enjoy during their two hour boat ride.  Justin was their chauffer around Lake Union and thankfully took a couple pictures of the girls for me.


The girls came back to the house and hung out until late playing games and watching a movie.

For Carly’s actually birthday she requested a breakfast omelet for dinner and a red velvet cake for dessert.  Easy peesy.  A very small part of me might actually miss the elaborate cake decorating of years past.

Aren’t little brothers the best?!?


She also requested homemade pretzels which we had as an after school snack the next day.  The following Saturday we were able to redeem her birthday goodies at Red Robin and Cold Stone Creamery while the two of us were out and about for her solo & ensemble performance.  


Happy Birthday Carly!

Carly’s Final Soccer Season?

Carly wrapped up her middle school athletic experiences in early March when the varsity soccer season ended.  Her team wasn’t the strongest in the league – I think they tied one game and lost the rest, but she enjoyed it regardless.  It’s such a short season – they only had eight games and Carly missed two of them when we were on vacation.


Carly’s coach sent us this little note when she was awarded Athlete of the Week, “Carly is a really good person.  Always smiling.  She is part of the team backbone.  I’ve really enjoyed coaching Carly.  She’s an excellent athlete and capable of playing a supporting mid, and defensive line if need be.  She is a joy both on and off the field.”


Once again we’ve reached the unfortunate point in sports where some tough decisions are going to need to be made.  Like Abigail, Carly is athletic and does well in many different sports.  As Carly enters high school in the fall she will need to choose between soccer and volleyball, which are both played in the fall at the high school level.  At this point I can honestly see her going either way.  Guess we’ll just wait and see…

Sunday, March 25, 2018

February Wrap-Up

Feb 2:  Abigail hung out with a couple friends today after school.  Megan and Abigail wanted to take a fun picture of their twinning minivans.  All three girls were still under the 6 month new driver rule that they couldn’t drive any non-family members around.  So they all drove separately to MOD pizza for dinner and then they all drove separately to the high school for an event.  It will be nice when Abigail doesn’t have that limitation anymore, but I do think it’s a great idea to give them additional practice behind with wheel without the added distraction of friends.


Feb 6:  We still do an after preschool swap every Tuesday and Thursday.  Grey comes to our house one of the days and Drew goes to Grey’s on the other day.  It’s been nice to have one day kid free day each week.  We’ve also invited Beckett over when it’s our turn to host.  For the most part it’s been fine having all three boys, but there have been a few times that Beckett gets left out.  Playing with three can be hard sometimes I guess.

The boys usually end up running to our house

Feb 10:  Justin loves to hike.  I suppose since it wasn’t raining today he thought it would be the perfect day to take the kids hiking – I don’t love the idea of the kids hiking in wet, wintery conditions – I think it’s still to dangerous, but I continue to lose that battle.  And from the pictures it looks like the kids had fun.


Tonight Justin helped Abigail dispose of her birthday balloons.


Feb 14:  Since we left on vacation on Valentine’s Day there weren’t any holiday festivities at our house.  Thankfully the littles still got some Valentine’s fun at school.  Jason and Katie made some simple Valentines boxes at home (no pictures) and were at school long enough on Valentine's Day to participate in the traditional passing around of class Valentines cards.  Drew’s preschool celebrated the week before.


Feb 21:  While we were in Florida I got a phone call from the hospital in San Francisco that we went to when we were on our roadtrip last summer.  I disputed the charges they billed us based on the fact that before admitting Abigail to the ER I told them we needed an MRI and I was told they would perform an MRI if it was necessary to diagnose her knee injury.  Once we were admitted though they refused and said it was only a strain of some sort.  I’ve been waiting for months for their dispute department to reach a decision and I was thrilled to hear they found in my favor and were waiving the entire $2200+ balance on our account.  The insurance had already paid them over $2k so they received more than enough to cover any charges incurred.  This was such great news!


Feb 28:  I’m still making a “green smoothie” each morning.  Katie and Drew always want some – Jason about half the time.  This morning Katie spilled hers on the counter and our solution was to just suck it up.  Waste not, want not.